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David
Happy birthday to Mr. P. Love your advice to Kelly and it is good and useful.

I believe that there is a small population out there that is hoping to make a difference to our kids because the reward of seeing the kids succeed far outweighs the salary.

The best thing your potential therapist should have is a heart because what they build together with your kids goes a long way if they care.

Can you save Mr. M a slice?

Thx so much for your sharing on Mr. P. Makes me cry when I read most of your posts and it sure gives me hope for the future.

Mr. M's mama

[David Chan]

oh yeah,

That's strawberry shortcake the food, not what some of you were thinking.

remember, it's all about being appropriate

he's a pretty cool guy, and the electric guitar is coming right along.

Wow, what a ride it's been for all of us.

Mr. P's mom and dad

[David Chan]

Hi Kelly,

A couple of things to keep in mind, there are many sources of Tx't. Post in the local colleges, or even high school. what you are looking for is someone who is interested. Salary should not be a key issue.

If they are interested in the salary beware, it doesn't matter that they have student loans, it really is not your concern. Always separate, they need to be interested in working with your kid.

Most of the good ones don't really do it for the salary, they do it because they are interested.

Get your current tx't to think of friends that might be interested, that's another possible source.

Don't be rigid, they don't have to have a psych or child education background. Some of our best Therapist have been human kinetics students (read old school PE). These guys are really cool because they understand the concept of coaching and teaching a skill.

HR is just not easy, trust me, it's been almost 11 years, and it's still hard, because your needs change, I need people that can help teach biology 11, so it's lot's of fun.

All the best, keep looking, the good ones are out there.

Your guy will learn to like them too.

Been there, done that, making up the t-shirt.

Dave,
Mr. P's Dad

P.•••••'s Mr. P's birthday today, holy cow.

you're welcome for the strawberry short cake

[Kelly Moonie]

Thanks to all who replied to my posting earlier. I have been given alot of helpful ideas. I am still looking for at least one line and a lead therapist. My family lives in LAngley. Anyone with helpful tips would be much apprieciated. Thanks Agian to all those who took the time to reply. Kelly (mom)

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Kelly

Sorry but I better post another msg. I assumed that you are a mom and I believe Kelly is a name for men or women so pls forgive me if I called you a mom if you are actually the dad.

I usually try to write "parent" but sometimes I will end up putting mom. There are a lot of caring and giving dads out there too.

Regards,
Mr. M's mama

[Deleted User]

Kelly

I am a mother of a 7 year old boy that is PDD but still under the spectrum and I feel for you. Although I cannot go to Langley to give you hug I hope to offer you a virtual one right now.
My familly knows first hand about frustration. My son was misdiagnosed and we went through 3 assessments to be able to get the appropriate diagnosis. Like most parents we often feel the guilt as I have most often felt in the same dilemna. Sadly this scenario you describe happens frequently because there is not enough money to keep these therapist/consultants around. Of course a courtesy of a call before a no show would be appreciated but I guess everyday now I learn to take a deep breath and tell myself, did I try my best? Then I have done the best for my son.
Life is full of ups and downs as a parent with a child that is autistic. I just ask that you never look down on yourself and never think any less of yourself. You are your son's voice and you fight for him because you love him. We all know this because we are either walking in the same path or we just are a few steps further ahead.
Instead I encourage you to focus on giving him your love, attention. Are you able to sub in on some of his shifts so that you can be in the loop until you find another person? I know it is challenging because we try to have everything else done. But someday your son will remember the mom that never gave up and not the one that could not find a theraptist.
We can only focus on what we can do to help them.

One thing I encourage all FEATers is to talk to our politicians and our MPs about our children. They want us to go away because it is our children that need help and at the end of the day we are just another file number to most people.

I know that there is a rally planned for March so please look out for info on the FEAT board and take a step to fight for your son's right to be able to have autism treatments covered by healthcare.

The reason you and I are struggling to keep these therapist and going through what we do is because we just can't offer enough money to keep these people and the funding is just not enough. It is more of an appetizer I think ha.

OK…I can ask around with some others to see if they know anyone in Langley that can help out. Email me if you still need to share. I hope that this email has encouraged you.

Someone once said to me:

"You were chosen to bring up this child in your home because it takes strength, vigiliance (spelling?), love, patience, courage, advocacy skills, and most of all acceptance to do what you do" We all want the "average child but I realize I have a real gem in my son. He has taught me a whole new way to look at the world. Your son is blessed to have you as his mom. chin up !

Mr. M's Mama
yipee@shaw.ca

[Kelly Moonie]

Well, I cant begin to expain how frustrated I am. I have been searching for line and lead therapists for over 2 months now. Although I do have 2, I still need at least 1 more. I have had 8 people cancel interviews on me because I live in Langley and it is too far. I also had a lady who lived in LAngley, commit to the position and the back out because I couldnt offer her enough hours she needed to pay off her student loan. She didnt even have the courage to phone me, rather, she sent me an email.

My son just turned 2 years old and timing is very crutial. I want to start his program ASAP and have had nothing but downfalls. I feel extreamly discourage and I feel like I am letting my son down.

If anyone out there knows ANYBODY who lives near LAngley and would love the oportunity to make a difference in a terrific little boys life, please email me. moonie@telus.net

Thanks you so much. Kelly

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[Super Dad]

Hi Heather,

You can tell the preschool that if they do not cooperate, you will take your child out and take the SCD funding with you. The funding stays with your child, so you can put it into a preschool that will hire your own therapist. Please email me if you need more details.

Tony

[Peter Wong]

Hi all,

Here is a quick question:
What is the definition of a non-verbal or verbal kid? Or how can I tell a kid is “verbal” (not non-verbal anymore).

I have heard some comments that if a child is non-verbal when entering school system, it will be more difficult to become verbal. I think one of the key reasons is the school system is using more SLP approach than ABA.

You can email me privately at v a n c o u v e r p e t e r AT g m a i l DOT c o m

Thanks a lot.

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